Any weakness among those you love is assumed to be attractive

By: N. George

Worth Not­ing:

• There are those who go a step fur­ther and bleach their skins to light­en them. The dan­ger of doing this is that if peo­ple fall in love with you due to that light skin there­after hap­pen to find some­one sim­i­lar to you with nat­ur­al light skin they will shift their loy­al­ty from you for the bet­ter new­ly found deal.
• To those who pre­fer to remain nat­ur­al despite feel­ing unsat­is­fied in some areas whether height, skin colour or body shape if they hap­pen to find lovers they are like­ly to sus­tain their love as they chose them inten­tion­al­ly and ful­ly aware of their short com­ings.

Not that the clear per­cep­tion of cer­tain weak­ness­es in those whom we love in any way dimin­ish­es our affec­tion for them; rather that affec­tion makes us find those weak­ness­es charm­ing ………….Mar­cel Proust, In the Shad­ow of Young Girls in Flower.

In the bible we hear about the cor­ner stone and how builders had ini­tial­ly reject­ed it only to lat­er on dis­cov­er its great impor­tance to an extent that any stone that fell on it got bro­ken and any stone it fell on it crushed it. Upon this real­iza­tion the builders fell in love with it and could only focus on ben­e­fits that they derived from it. Its weak­ness­es were over­shad­owed by its strengths.

Many of par­ents who are strict to their kids dur­ing ear­ly devel­op­ment stages are not liked much by them as they com­pare them­selves with oth­er chil­dren who come from more lib­er­al fam­i­lies but once they become inde­pen­dent and real­ize how the dis­ci­pline in their upbring­ing is help­ing them suc­ceed in life it is when they appre­ci­ate their par­ents in a great way even to an extent of extend­ing the same val­ues to their kids.

Once they start appre­ci­at­ing efforts by their par­ents any oth­er val­ue they see their par­ent pro­mote they just accept it with­out inter­ro­gat­ing it fur­ther as accord­ing to them it is out of good inten­tions they are doing so.

Tall, dark and hand­some are terms used to describe an ide­al attrac­tive man prob­a­bly coined by some­one who pos­sess­es these qual­i­ties in an attempt to jus­ti­fy that he is the stan­dard unit of attrac­tive­ness but as known by every­one the size and shape of any human being are not pre­rog­a­tive of any­one to choose. You only come to know about these upon attain­ment of an age where you are able to recog­nise who you are and who oth­ers are.

There are those who put on make­up in an attempt to spice up their looks. It may work in their favour but the big ques­tion is whether they will remain com­mit­ted to do this through­out their life time so as not to lose the allure.

There are those who go a step fur­ther and bleach their skins to light­en them. The dan­ger of doing this is that if peo­ple fall in love with you due to that light skin there­after hap­pen to find some­one sim­i­lar to you with nat­ur­al light skin they will shift their loy­al­ty from you for the bet­ter new­ly found deal.

To those who pre­fer to remain nat­ur­al despite feel­ing unsat­is­fied in some areas whether height, skin colour or body shape if they hap­pen to find lovers they are like­ly to sus­tain their love as they chose them inten­tion­al­ly and ful­ly aware of their short com­ings.

In fact, they will see them as real as no one is per­fect. There will be no time and oth­er resources wast­ed in attempt to jus­ti­fy their iden­ti­ties as their pre­sen­ta­tion is just nat­ur­al.

In choos­ing who or what to deal with many peo­ple look at the over­all good­ness that is whether ben­e­fits exceeds short­com­ings.

When you under­stand who you are and appre­ci­ate your sta­tus your self-esteem is boost­ed. You are not swayed by oth­er people’s opin­ion about you and you are at a good posi­tion to cham­pi­on what you think is right with­out feel­ing intim­i­dat­ed or doubt­ing your mis­sion. Con­se­quent­ly the con­fi­dence in you makes your audi­ence to trust what­ev­er you are pro­mot­ing.

Let us all accept that we all have strengths and weak­ness­es. Pro­vid­ed our strengths are more than our weak­ness­es we are ben­e­fi­cial to the soci­ety and we should focus on our pos­i­tiv­i­ties to improve human wel­fare.

Be an exam­ple to the world that any­one else who is like you can do mean­ing­ful thing to the world.