Avoid hatred, it ruins ones future
By: N. George
Worth Noting:
- Interacting or living near a toxic person should teach you a lesson of what kind of a person you should avoid becoming. The experience should help you make life better for both self and others who you interact with. Most of learning is practical rather than theoretical so those around you will wish to emulate your deeds more that verbal utterances.
- Becoming aware that a habit is a disease is important so you should avoid cultivating the seeds of hatred as they may outgrow you make you toxic to an extent that everyone who knows about your behaviour will try to avoid you minimizing chances of changing who you are.
The most deadly fruit is borne by the hatred which one grafts on an extinguished friendship ……….Gotthold Ephraim Lessing
In any study of human beings social interactions you will realize that they behave differently under varying situations so when happy their reactions are different from when they are bitter or when in surprise or expecting a certain outcome. That being the case you may find today’s enemy becoming the most important ally tomorrow or today’s friend becoming a thorn in flesh tomorrow.
It is not all times that you are able to foresee what will happen in the coming days so the best safeguard is not to over rely on other people as any abrupt withdrawal of their support may disrupt your operations.
Remaining objective in your dealings with them cushion you from extremism. On the points of disagreement they are able to know your stand and reasons behind it so they are aware if they make revision of the way they conduct themselves you will no longer be at loggerheads with them.
You should be agreeing or differing with others on independent issues so there should no room for exercise of hate on an individual without citing the reason for behaving in such a manner.
Out of hate what one does is to harm the other person or make the environment toxic hence rendering it unsuitable to all those you are dealing with. If the other person opt to revenge both of you make them pollute the environment to an extent that your relationship could become injurious.
There is no positive attribute that can be associated with hatred so we need to avoid it at all costs. That said it does not mean that we should love or condone bad habits rather we should point out what we are unsatisfied with. If the other person is cooperative and willing to change the behaviour for better well and good if unwilling we should just inform them but if they are unresponsive we should ignore them and move on with life.
Interacting or living near a toxic person should teach you a lesson of what kind of a person you should avoid becoming. The experience should help you make life better for both self and others who you interact with. Most of learning is practical rather than theoretical so those around you will wish to emulate your deeds more that verbal utterances.
Becoming aware that a habit is a disease is important so you should avoid cultivating the seeds of hatred as they may outgrow you make you toxic to an extent that everyone who knows about your behaviour will try to avoid you minimizing chances of changing who you are.
Realizing that comfortable living of one person is not necessarily due to absence of the other person is important so since you never created anyone you should not be too obsessed in chasing away those who you do not love.
To bear an offspring requires more than one person so the society is interdependent. This should teach us that we need each other and the best way to ensure we benefit from others is to identify their strengths and focus on these positivities.
No one is endowed will all talents required in the world so it forces us to seek support of others in their areas of expertise. Much as you look at what you expect from others you need to self-evaluate to identify how useful you are to the rest of the people.
Let us learn to cultivate love for both self as well as others around us. Nature was harmoniously created and needs to remain orderly throughout. Be part of those who love and promote harmony and care for both self and all those you interact with.
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