The Mt Kenya Times 
By N. George
Worth Noting:
- When a parent is physically present he is able to fully focus on one issue at a time with full attention being put to the issue at hand, no imaginations but dealing with reality.
- With the parent being physically available the kids feels secure and are able to concentrate with the instructions given by the parent with a lot of comfort.
- A parent teaching the kid in person builds a closer relationship to an extent that the child will not fear asking for clarification from the parent and by the virtue of being available there will be numerous opportunities for the child to keep seeking for support until the time when he will be conversant with the subject.
What makes life to be good? To some it is good health, good food, good clothing, good housing, high quality education, high end cars and good family. In general many people equate good life to riches, fame and accolades. One thing that stands out is that after having good life people wish to enjoy it for a lengthy period of time in fact forever if possible. However no one lives forever so in cognizant of this the best step they take is to plan succession.
No matter how good a vision is it will just remain an imagination until that time when it is actualized, to do this you need to have clarity of what you aspire to achieve and in your absence you need someone who is aware of your intentions to sustain your vision.
Whenever people observe you while you are doing something they are able to learn a lot from you even without necessary having to utter any word. Through continued observation your actions people easily identify your philosophy in life.
In the recent past we have witnessed in and out of court battles of family members belonging to famous people as well as collapse of business empires of these great men and women in the country. It is surprising to note that some owners of these empires built them from scratch that is they did not get their wealth through inheritance.
They sacrificed a lot, brought up their children in lavish lifestyles despite themselves having been brought up in humble families. They also ensure that everything is intact at the time of handing over their estate to their children. What promotes the care free attitude and destruction of inherited properties is failure of the children to have the interest of their parents’ vision at heart.
They just think as if the owner of the property is one of the property. They fail to give life to the vision of the previous owner of the estate and as a result they kill his vision. This disconnect between the parent and the children is either due to the values of the parents being absent in their children or the environment in the children heart and mind being unconducive for the vision to nourish for example conflict in ideologies between to parents and the siblings.
Children learn more by observation than through listening especially if a behaviour is rewarded or is assumed to be rewarded there is a high likelihood that the children will replicate it with an intention of getting rewards also.
In the world that we are living the human wants are unlimited and so are the people schedules in an attempt to fulfill some of these wants. This has led to absentee parents or spouses. However it is recommendable that the parents should try as much as possible to be physically present so that they model their children according to how they want their vision to be carried in the future days.
Physical presence helps the kids not only to listen to know what the parents expects of them but also to see how the parents does things in order to emulate them. In traditional African society most of the skills were passed from one generation to the other through on job training where if the parents are medicine men, hunters or black smiths they would go to the work field alongside their children and the children would learn through observation as well as through listening, the method used to be effective.
Among the Asian community more so Indians business community they have a similar kind of arrangement to that of traditional African societies where in a business you will find the child who is trainee, the father who is the trainer and the grandfather who is the consultant or specialist, all in the same location so as a customer you are served by the trainee if need for further enquiry he requests the father to support and if the matter is too weighty the grandfather’s lengthy experience comes into action.
Being physical present have many benefits, some of them are explained below.
Enhanced concentration and focus
When a parent is physically present he is able to fully focus on one issue at a time with full attention being put to the issue at hand, no imaginations but dealing with reality.
Great sense of care
With the parent being physically available the kids feels secure and are able to concentrate with the instructions given by the parent with a lot of comfort.
Quick reference
A parent teaching the kid in person builds a closer relationship to an extent that the child will not fear asking for clarification from the parent and by the virtue of being available there will be numerous opportunities for the child to keep seeking for support until the time when he will be conversant with the subject.
Ease in evaluation of the child progress
Whenever the parent is physically present he is able to evaluate the progression of the kid at ease, he can monitor the way the child responds to the questions, kids schedule and body language to know whether the kid is contented with the skills being imparted on him.
Ability to regulate the learning environment
When a parent is physically present and is imparting skills to the kids he is able to not only concentrate with what he is teaching but also to feel and see what the prevailing circumstances are and work in the best interest of the kid for example the location may be extremely hot, noisy or poorly aerated which all negatively affect the kid so the parent is able to understand the environment and make the necessary modifications to ensure make it favourable.
Faster and easier conflict resolution
Physical presence at the training ground offers a parent wide variety of tools to solve any misunderstanding that may arise. He is able to analyse the effects of conflict as well as other surrounding circumstances that affect the issue in question.
Direct exercise of authority
When a parent is in the same location with the kid he is able to influence the kid directly. He can give directions and monitor whether they have been followed without being required to delegate anything.
Identification of special skills
Should parent be in the same work station with the kid and spending most of their time together he will be able to identify the skills that the kid is endowed with through observation and asking questions. This will play a big role as the parent will not keep on imagining on what is the best for the kid but will nature the skill that is naturally present in the kid and he have already identified it.
Ease in prioritizing activities
Being physically available and thorough understanding of the environment will help the parent to know what is best for the kid at the present moment and the best method to use in arriving at the desired results.
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