Breaking The Stigma of Unmarried, Having No Child, Or Divorced As A Youth
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Breaking The Stigma
By Paula Otukile
Gaborone, Botswana
It a beautiful thing to be a nymph at the age of eighteen to twenty four, suddenly agemates start to have kids, and get married, as the career elevates, with no husband, at twenty six years, the parents begins to talk and indicate that one must be outgoing to get married soon.
Once the young damsel reaches the age of thirty, without a kid, the same pep talk of keeping chaste changes, and the most supportive group, begins to accuse the young woman of barrenness.
At the weddings as an unmarried woman, the traditional clothes worn by a married woman denotes where to seat, and be, as married women meet by the traditional yard to give advice to the one getting married.
The worst feel is when an abused, woman returns home from a failed marriage, or simply returning for whatsoever reason, the stigma is worse, and the people do not say anything but got a way to make one feel inadequate.
Lots of women prefer to endure abuse, Gbv instead of walking away back to their marital homes. It gets painful when stuck in an uncomfortable space called marriage just to please a society of minds that stigmatizes a divorcee instead of celebrating a soldier that bravely walked away from a bad space.
When will we stop the stigma as women, when will love lead, we create a comfortable zone for unmarried individuals, we make a good environment to live for a divorcee? Will we raise daughters that persevere abuse and failed relationships because to be alone is seen as a bad thing?
Times have changed for a woman to just have a child out of pressure, a woman must be financially stable, emotionally and materially ready for raising a productive child. This shall eradicate poverty in our society and it shall boost the esteem of most women.
Women are born leaders if well supported and living in peace the world shall be a better place to live in.
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