There a lot of deaths from depression, misunderstanding and mistrust among lovers in our societies and country at large. As a society we have lost the concept of real love by virtue of being stripped our African culture by forces like technology and western Influence. The rate of single mothers and single dads has drastically risen. The ugliest part being after dumping each other some men fail to provide for their children in previous relationship. In our societies we should go back to the African history of love as a memory and form of guidance. The questions that pop up is, How did our elders in the traditional African set up loved and related to each other?. Why did they last longer in relationships?, How were they able to build strong relationships that lead to solid marriages? Nowadays there are a lot of wrong perceptions about love and relationship mostly among teenagers especially in college and campus from the age of 18- 25.Ladies are too much into material possession and shifting gears to men older than them who got the cash. Love to the boys is majorly based on looks and attraction. The many expectations from love especially material things causes heartbreaks and even marriages breaking or even murder when a partner fails to meet them.
The bad perception of youths not appreciating friends or family members relationships and comment negatively whenever they post some of their good moments on social media just because their own relationship didn’t work out is worrying. Comments like, ‘mtaachana tu’ and ‘love is a scum’ are all over. This should stop as it would psychologically cause negative attitude towards love and relationships in the event of the union hitting the wall. Technology and social media also contributes to heart breaks. Social media secret messages and flirting is also a leading cause. Partners spy on each other and any message that’s suspicious brings mistrust and conflicts. Youths fail to have a stance on one lover and end up having multiple lovers and in the end leading to ugly fights threats and some who feel disrespected end up committing suicide. Parents should give proper parental care, love advice and counsel their children from getting into unnecessary relationships based on material benefits to keep them psychologically fit to grow and have emotional intelligence and maturity in order to have fruitful love relationships in future.This would reduce depression among youth and negative attitude towards love matters and helping them to focus on developing themselves on their career paths and perform better in school or job.As a society we should go back and relearn from our elders and African Cultural values regarding love.
By Tabitha Yatich and Wanyonyi Yvonne, Rongo University.
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