Life Is Both Give At Take

By: N. George

Worth Noting:

• A husband who wants a healthy relationship with his wife tries to use the friendliest method to solve any dispute that may arise between the two parties. If it is the wife who had erred she should be made to realize, accept her mistakes and promise to correct them. This would promote harmony.
• If the mistake was done by husband and he accepts and apologizes then his wife will accept the apology having ironed out the differences but if the parties involved engage in conflict and none of them wish to accept the blame then peace will be far from them as the one offended will be bitter with the other party. The rule hear is for the offending party to swallow the bitter pill by accepting, apologizing and promising not to repeat then the reunion will be restored.

No man lives without jostling and being jostled; in all ways he has to elbow himself through the world, giving and receiving offense….………. Thomas Carlyle.

A popular idiomatic English proverb says that you can’t have your cake and eat it too meaning that you can’t enjoy both of two desirable but mutually exclusive alternatives for example you cannot enjoy watching an inspiring movie while at the same time you are sleeping, you need to do either at any given time.

A parent who wants to instill her values to her kids cannot claim to employ a house help to do exactly what she want her to know as she attends to work. The house girl will instill what she knows to the kids and that is house girl’s values rather than those of her boss.

In the end the kid will be behaving like the house help who have served as a trainer and perhaps the role model and his mother chose work over personalized child care.

A husband who wants a healthy relationship with his wife tries to use the friendliest method to solve any dispute that may arise between the two parties. If it is the wife who had erred she should be made to realize, accept her mistakes and promise to correct them. This would promote harmony.

If the mistake was done by husband and he accepts and apologizes then his wife will accept the apology having ironed out the differences but if the parties involved engage in conflict and none of them wish to accept the blame then peace will be far from them as the one offended will be bitter with the other party. The rule hear is for the offending party to swallow the bitter pill by accepting, apologizing and promising not to repeat then the reunion will be restored.

Those who intend to work throughout the night should not accept day time offers to work as they will either have low levels of productivity or dose at work as sleep is unforgiving to an extent that when you deny your body it will force you to sleep at the unexpected time that is why you see some people dosing at important occasions and wonder why they are behaving like that publicly but many are times when the sleep is catching them while unaware.

A farmer who does not bother tilling the land to plant his seeds or do weeding should not complain of poor harvest or no harvest at all as it was him who chose not to sow so he should not enjoy reaping from his garden. On the other hand a farmer who makes effort to prepare the land, weed and prune should continue to be happy with his harvest as it is out of his earlier sacrifices that he is enjoying the benefits.

A teacher who trains his students well and has good rapport with them is likely to be appreciated by his students and at times supported by them once they complete studies and he happen to meet them. The respect and dedication he showed to them is reciprocated.

On the other hand a teacher who mistreats his students and is lazy in teaching is likely to be ignored by his students. What he currently enjoys would be offered by his students once they complete the school and happen to meet him as they would to not be willing to sacrifice their time and resources for someone who least cared for them.

In whatever you do if it affects other people put them into consideration when determining whether to continue or not. Be aware that whatever you do to them they are likely to reciprocate either now or in future. Live a well-balanced life; choose wisely what to do and what not to do and to what extent, where and when.

In any competition if you are a participant it will be a lot of joy for you to win. On the other hand you will feel bitter if you lose but you need to accept the results as it was one of the possibilities well known to you even before you engaged in the event.