By: Daisy Misati
It is often said that words can either build or destroy. This is a weighty statement indeed. This statement is either true or false depending on how one takes it. Words are really powerful and we are therefore advised to be mindful when it come to our choice of words and to use them not only to support others but also inspire others so as to refrain from hurting them.
Shaping your words
As simple as this subject may sound,it comes out as a crucial matter as well. When talking about shaping something,. it simply means improving it or making it better. In this context however, shaping your word is just a brutal way of saying “Sharpen your language”. Out words tend to get out of shape when overly misused or even underestimated. Clearly, one should shape their words in order to shape their future.
When the blade cuts deep
As earlier put across, “words can either build or destroy”. Well, words can do far much more harm than that. Words can ‘kill someone’. When we talk about killing, it does not refer to the physical death but rather, here, one experiencs “mental death”. This becomes a tearful experience as it definitely affects and even ruins one’s mental health. It is simply torture to one’s reins. This is basically the reason why most people with or without temper issues are usually advised to be cautious when addressing someone and avoid intriguing situations that may actually resort to killing someone “verbally”.
Lousy hurtful words that make the heart sore
“You are so stupid”, “You are so ugly”, “You’re lazy”, “No one is ever going to love you”…the list is surprisingly and amusingly endless. Such words not only shatter one’s confidence but also destroy a person’s confidence. At this point, most people become depressed and suicidal thoughts become more prevalent. One only thinks about the negatives rather than the positives. They see no value in life and thus turn to unhealthy ways of curbing or rather ‘killing the pain’ or the nagging feeling inside.
Mental health issues and words
With the rising cases of mental health issues in the country, the government in relation with the Ministry of Health are tasked with a great role to stabilise the health status, more so of the mind by carrying out a few procedures. They can come up with mentorship programs, talk sessions or even crusades to scrutinize this matter of mental health in relation to the negative effects of our words to others. In these programmes, people will be mentored on how to improve the”health of their words”, and will therefore be taught on how to relate well with others. In talk sessions, victims of depression, attempted suicide or other mental disorders can be invited as the main and chief guests to grace such occasions by sharing their experiences and advising people on how to use their words wisely so as to refrain from hurting others.
Effects on behaviour
Words are powerful! They have the power to either establish or dismantle. While positive words can build one’s self esteem as well as reputation, negative words shatter one’s ‘mental’ system and usually have detrimental effects and cause ineffaceable scars.
Making things right
Improving how one relates with others is a very big step one would opt to make in order to build and maintain stable and healthy relationships. We all know that humans are social beings and as the saying goes,”No man is an island.” One can as well prove the fidelity and infallibility of these statements by making things right. Learning how to interact with others, and using polite language at all times is key. This goes a long way in nurturing healthy and sound relationships and lowers the risk of becoming victims of mental health issues.
A precious token
Good words, or rather, “healthy words”, are so important in our daily lives since on a daily basis we interact with people day-in day-out and this ameliorates as well as advances our associations as well as interactions with each other. One may inquiringly ask how employing such methods would benefit them let alone anyone around them. Here comes a slight revelation of this highly-valued and appraised token by many;one that brings many people together, spreads unity, tightens connections and also makes someone feel special. It’s definitely clear what the token is. You have guessed right, it’s love. As easy as it may always seem easy to acquire this token or share it, most people find it hard to spread it.
A ray of hope
All hope may be gone and you may feel completely shattered even by a simple statement like, “You can’t do this!”What’s next? Suicide? Depression?Mental breakdown?NO! It’s a time to fight your battles fearlessly. Above all things, learn to love yourself. You cannot expect to be loved yet you don’t love yourself. Do not let people’s opinions shape your wellness or determine your life. Lastly, let’s use our words wisely so as to improve our “Verbal Health”.
Accepting yourself
A famous singer known as Alessia Cara writes a song whose title is “No scars to your beautiful”.The song’s words tend to be so touching and very engaging as though the writer of the song is talking directly to the listener of the songs lyrics. There’s a phrase in the song that says,”there’s a hope that’s waiting for you in the dark, you should know you’re beautiful just the way you are…” and so on. Through this song,this singer motivates and encourags people to see and value their self-worth as well as self-confidence. Of course words may hurt to a point of despair but learning never to let anyone’s words define who you are, what you do or even what you think proves a great way of handling issues. Wipe those tears, rise up and simply show everyone around you that you are a strong. This is definitely because you are a winner. As the saying goes, “Winners never quit and quitters never win.” It up to you now. It’s either you are a winner or a winner. Period!
Healing the wound
When it comes to this scenario of healing,not that much is usually expected. In this stage of healing, friendliness is what counts the most. Boosting our confidence is also key and so is speaking out, basically, having a voice. The wound heals when the one affected engages themselves in some therapy sessions like music therapy and also when told negative comments,does not fight back but defend themselves in the right way and also writing which helps ease stress as well as even depression. For example, when someone tells you a heart-piercing statement like,”I hate you”, this may make you feel down but the moment you embrace self-worth as well as self-confidence, nothing can ever go wrong.
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