The Mt Kenya Times 
By Mary Ngethe
Worth Noting:
- When self-awareness process is well progressed, then one will be able to experience the “soft small voice” of authentic self saying “you are being arrogant, you are being self focused” Then you will have started conquering the ego, and started mastering how to deal with yourself as your authentic self.
- Dealing with life therefore dictates that one must answer a crucial question: WHO AM I?
- Relating The Question “Who Am I” Authentic Self:
- Most people including doctors, lawyers, teachers, professors, entrepreneurs, mechanics, farmers, musicians and others are at times unable to answer that simple question in a comfortable manner.
- If they are asked what are you? They are very quick to answer. I am a doctor, or I am a teacher.
Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, your worst enemy already lives inside you.
Your Ego.
Freud defined ego with a lot of analogy, but I chose to use a very simple casual definition.
“An unhealthy belief in our own importance. Arrogance. Self-centered ambition” This is my self-made definition trying to define ego using everyday life experiences
Human Ego tries to influence the Authentic Self to always focus on self, resulting with the Distorted Self.
When one can answer the question “Who are you”, then self-awareness process has started.
When self-awareness process is well progressed, then one will be able to experience the “soft small voice” of authentic self saying “you are being arrogant, you are being self focused” Then you will have started conquering the ego, and started mastering how to deal with yourself as your authentic self.
Dealing with life therefore dictates that one must answer a crucial question: WHO AM I?
Relating The Question “Who Am I” Authentic Self:
Most people including doctors, lawyers, teachers, professors, entrepreneurs, mechanics, farmers, musicians and others are at times unable to answer that simple question in a comfortable manner.
If they are asked what are you? They are very quick to answer. I am a doctor, or I am a teacher.
But not “who are you”.
Who are You then? Every human being is a product of two people, Male and female who then become father and mother based on whether they will participate in nurturing the child.
Either way, they have partnered with God to manufacture a product that has a body, mind and soul. The product is then given a name by the two or by whoever becomes the care giver(s).
At this very early stage of name giving the product is mainly Authentic, as created, like a new car from the manufacturer.
As created by God through the two human beings. This product has ID, EGO AND SUPER-EGO.
For this article, I choose to focus on the EGO.
As the child gets bigger and interacts with the world at home, school, community and wherever else, the authenticity is influenced and deviated from the original, leading towards a distorted product.
Life experiences are the ones, which bring the distortion.
Some things in life hurt the product and others nurture the product.
Either way, the soul mind and body are affected. If the life experiences have negative effects on the body, mind and soul, then a hybrid self is made.
When one encounters life situations in life, then one has to wade through that specific situation.
In some cases, one is able to wade through, and still emerge as authentic self (no major hurt in life).
But there are some situations that encounters in life, and however hard the person tries to wade through, the situation becomes a barrier in personal development and starts to transform the person from the authentic self to someone else to others, life seems normal but it is not.
Changing from authentic self to hybrid is most times a slow undetected process especially in childhood and young adults.
It can be comments from a parent, a teacher, a house girl, a significant other like a grandparent, or whoever else.
It can be any other life transforming occurrences
For example, if a girl/boy looses h/his parent through death or divorce at childhood, and s/he does not go through the mourning process properly, their soul and mind are touched negatively, and this can result in the self being “changed internally”
H/His ego can be led to bleed. Such a child can sink in spirit or arm self to defend self from life situations of this world. Authenticity distortion has started, and can continue by the day.
Such a person will either always fear from wading through life or wade through life in such force that he/she will step on other people trying to get to h/his destination.
Effects of such change can result with how the person behaves in school, at work, at home, in business, leading to success or failure depending on the change.
None of the two responses to situations is good. They have bought down people with very good jobs, made people go to prisons because of acting on impulse trying to defend the ego, and several other life threatening behaviors that interfere with the life one was created to lead.
EGO and our politicians
Our politicians in Kenya and elsewhere have to be very careful to undertake self-awareness programs in order to serve people and not act dictated by their ego.
EGO has been suspected to cause major political life catastrophes like the holocaust occuremces that happened to the Jews in the hands of Hitler.
African people need to wake up and elect leaders who have conquered their ego.
EGO and Marriage
When choosing a life partner, one should be very careful to deal with red flags during courtship because egoistic people make very abusive spouses. An egoistic spouse also makes an abusive parent, making the home/family a hell on earth instead of a haven of peace as God planned it to be
Call To Action
I call upon my readers to have a well-mastered life, for Peace Hidden in The Hearts. You cannot have peace until you master the ego.
Next article will dwell on how to master ego, have peace, and obey the two verses above. Massage your ego while you also massage egos of those around you. Then you will have master you. And ego will obey you instead of you obeying ego, who lives inside you
Have a self-mastered week!
_Mary Karau Ngethe
Life Coach and Mental Health Advocate
0722652111 or 0736317363_
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