Do Not Be Afraid Of Solitude

By: N. George

Worth Noting:

• You have not taken time to implore avenues of dealing with a similar or related situation. It is during that time when you are alone that ideas flow undisrupted and you are able to see through issues as they occurred.
• Solely testing and evaluating your strengths helps you to know them as well as determine in which areas you need to seek external support.
• When other people who you deal with come to know that you spend some time alone and make personal decisions they are likely to classify you as an independent person. This will come with a lot of respect to whatever you stand for. Your true identity will be easy to determine as one can directly relate your actions to whatever is in your mind.

Blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who are not afraid of their own company, who are not always desperately looking for something to do, something to amuse themselves with and something to judge…………………  Paulo Coelho.

Peer pressure is one of the greatest forces that makes people to group and be strictly adhering to the group rules and regulations for fear of looking as odd one out.

People are social beings hence no wrong in loving to be in association with other people or wanting to know what other people want or are doing. Awareness of cultural expectations you need to observe the norms but also you should enquire reasons behind those norms being instituted.

When you know that the conditions that resulted into normalizing a certain action was instituted by an influential individual with the sole reason of personally benefiting at expense of others and the fear he instilled in his subjects made them to comply then you can opt not to follow that path of the majority who are wrong.

In midst of people a lot of ideas emerge some are discussed while others are not yet you see them being practiced. Questions may be posed to you as well as you pose to others.  Owing to the pace as well as environment in which issues happen it is not everything you are able to thoroughly analyse so you need some time after the events to reflect or review happenings of the day so that you can establish whether everything is taken care of failure to which you may not carry out necessary rectifications or you may be rendered vulnerable and repeat a past mistake much as you detect you have erred.

You have not taken time to implore avenues of dealing with a similar or related situation. It is during that time when you are alone that ideas flow undisrupted and you are able to see through issues as they occurred.

Solely testing and evaluating your strengths helps you to know them as well as determine in which areas you need to seek external support.

When other people who you deal with come to know that you spend some time alone and make personal decisions they are likely to classify you as an independent person. This will come with a lot of respect to whatever you stand for. Your true identity will be easy to determine as one can directly relate your actions to whatever is in your mind.

A person who initiates processes is easy to support as he has something to build on compared to the one who waits for someone else to instruct him or others to act so that he may imitate them.

In times of disputes among peers or any association of people where everyone is forced by circumstances to part ways with each other the independent minded will be able to withstand solitude as compared to the dependent one who will look for someone else to lean on and in event he is rejected he will be left stranded, stressed and strained looking for someone to lean on for support.

Inability to be independent renders your private matter as well as any other information you have to be non-confidential as the likelihood of you sharing that information in the name of seeking support or sharing ideas are quiet high.

Personal audit is made easy if all your acts were solely done hence you will be required to retrace only your steps.

Enjoying personal space by observing solitude will help you to understand the need for independence and in the same spirit you will be able to respect the space of other people hence refrain from encroaching their territories when there is nothing reasonable enough necessitating such interference.

Let us lean about personal space and public spaces, differentiate and appreciate them accordingly.