The Mt Kenya Times 
By Paula.O.M.Otukile
Botswana, Africa
Worth Noting:
- Crawl back to the drawing board and let’s normalize to tell our brothers it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to admit abuse, and share problems, talk them out do not bottle them, it is not crazier idea to go see a counselor as a man, it is okay to go see a man of God on healing of marriage or relationship. It is okay to accept a failed marriage and co parent. Divorce is not a big issue if the marriage is not working.
- Many suffer what the people shall say syndrome, the same people who cannot cook, nor give you a boiled egg if hunger strike or a shelter to listen to the pressures of life.
Gender based violence and sexual abuse is rife in our society. However no one must be a judge as we shall be judged too. What can we do to improve our approach to our fallen brothers and sisters?
Can noise and balatant mundane finger pointing bring back lost loved ones?
Can we be bold make engaging conversations and do it before another disaster strike seek ways to remedy deaths as last resort in tight spots?
Let’s stick to facts as we revise our paths from few years back.
Passion killing became a normal thin the year 2007/2008. There is nothing passionate about killing. We must face the monster amongst us which is acceptance of a failed relationship, acknowledgement of incompatible partners and immediately break up amicably with our partners once we see the same patterns repeating.
Condemning a cheating spouse, focusing on the culprit of cheating is not a solution when dire consequences have occurred such as loss of lives.
Mirror on the wall must be who does not have skeletons on the wall? Let’s normalize to talk our problems out, the biased sayings such as “Monna ga lele, Monna wa bapala, Monna lebota!” Meaning a man must not cry, it is weakness, man must have strong heart, a man must provide, they confuse the entire younger generation.
Crawl back to the drawing board and let’s normalize to tell our brothers it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to admit abuse, and share problems, talk them out do not bottle them, it is not crazier idea to go see a counselor as a man, it is okay to go see a man of God on healing of marriage or relationship. It is okay to accept a failed marriage and co parent. Divorce is not a big issue if the marriage is not working.
Many suffer what the people shall say syndrome, the same people who cannot cook, nor give you a boiled egg if hunger strike or a shelter to listen to the pressures of life.
Men are people with emotions and it is fine for them to weep and accept failure too.
Depression is real, even on the higher level ranked individuals, never be ashamed to accept failure. Embrace the facts not meeting, the plans not coming together; ask for relevant help, suicide or killing is not the solution.
Yes, people leak and those who talk a lot shall not stop you from seeking relevant help. People stop 🛑 talking only when you are dead.
Stop 🛑 abusing yourself with what will people say, it is end of life, face the problems and stand.
If a relationship is not working no one must die, you were a grown up woman when you meet up and never think both of you cannot survive without each other.
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