In parenting it is worth to be right than to be friendly

By N. George

Worth Noting: 

• To ensure accountability every action the children do should be given an evaluation if good the child is appreciated and at times rewarded with a present. If bad, the child should be made aware of the consequences of his actions and if he becomes a perennial transgressor he can be punished.
• In presence of visitors, some parents caution the children not to keep staring at them or borrow either food or money from the visitors, the children may see this as discrimination in their own home but in the long-term they learn what boundaries are and why it is good to respect the boundaries.

Many are times during our day-to-day activities when we are confronted with choices between doing what is right and what is friendly. It becomes tough especially when being right is seemingly hurting.

A father advises his teenage son to stop drinking beer in the name of fun. The son thinks that the dad is jealous of him enjoying life and continues having fun through drinking.  The son is caught in school while drunk and is expelled for two weeks.

A look at similar cases in the past clearly shows that it is better to be right than being friendly more so in cases where an unpleasant behaviour was tolerated the reason being one would not like to be seen as unfriendly.

Those in charge of serious decision-making situations should be careful in their actions to avoid regrets in future especially in matters relating to parenting, management, policy making and teaching positions.

A parent who realizes that his children are lazy and irresponsible should decide to take appropriate remedial measures. He needs to allocate duties to the children and strictly monitor the progress.

The children may fail to appreciate the efforts of their parents instead see them as inconsiderate. When your children grow old, get married, bear children then your grandchildren become lazy and irresponsible they behave to their parents the same way their parents behaved to you that is when your children realize how concerned and fore sighted you were when emphasizing need for discipline and dedication to work.

To ensure accountability every action the children do should be given an evaluation if good the child is appreciated and at times rewarded with a present. If bad, the child should be made aware of the consequences of his actions and if he becomes a perennial transgressor he can be punished.

In presence of visitors, some parents caution the children not to keep staring at them or borrow either food or money from the visitors, the children may see this as discrimination in their own home but in the long-term they learn what boundaries are and why it is good to respect the boundaries.

The mother advises her daughter that despite having engaged in relationship at young age she should take her time before getting married so that she matures and have ability to make decisions that are well informed.

If she fails to listen makes haste to get in to marriage high are chances that a few years after getting married she will realize that she rushed to make crucial decisions and regrets why she refused to take heed of her mother’s advice. It is from there that she appreciates that weighty decisions like the one requiring long-term commitment should be given a lot of considerations.

A girl gets pregnant before marriage, she opts not to abort and many people laugh at her, prospective bridegrooms shun her. The decision though difficult helps her to avoid complications that may arise from unsafe abortion like failure to give birth in future. It also prevents her from feelings of regret and guilt due to crime that she has committed.

She is also relieved the burden of constant telling lies as a cover-up for fear that, if her future husband knows about her past bad deeds, he will divorce her.

An elderly man advises a newly married couple to avoid physical confrontation and fights. To them they feel bad that an outsider is interfering with their lives. The time they injure each other and the case is taken to court and the judge punishes one or both of the parties is when they recall the words of their elder to avoid fights and embrace dialogue or use a mediator to solve any conflict that may arise in their relationship.

A father advises his teenage son to stop drinking beer in the name of fun. The son thinks that the dad is jealous of him enjoying life and continues having fun through drinking.  The son is caught in school while drunk and is expelled for two weeks.

The father reduces the pocket money allocation to his son so that he does not have excess money to engage in drinking consequently the son realizes his mistakes and resolves to stop drinking.

Though the father can be seen as unaccommodating, his action plays a great role in dissuading his son from engaging in inappropriate behaviours that if uncontrolled can result in alcohol addiction.

You should watch whatever you do through action or inaction. Every decision you take will have the outcome if good you will enjoy if bitter then you will regret a lot.